But life hits us right when we are trying to do something else.
I have thought over many blogs, and I regret that I have not written them down.
I have a great deal of people that I miss... this season in my life is strange. I am meeting lots of people but few of them live within a reasonable distance to hang out with.
Strange, isn't it when you meet someone you "just click" with. My wife and I spent a week at a training in a different part of the country and met several new people and hung out with some people we had met last year at a different training event.
On the last night of this years event, we played a little game, "greater than or less than." It is like the elementary school assignment when you determine which fraction is larger.... except with people.
For clarification it is not deciding which person has greater value or which has less. Rather, it is thinking about you would rather spend time with. And sure "would you rather" may have worked as a moniker, but it has an association with a less than pleasant game!
After talking through the couples and individuals at the event I thought about what mattered or should i say what was the qualifier for one person over another.
I determined it was about the energy required to be around that person. Some people are so easy to be around, its effortless. Other people, sometimes for no fault of their own, require just a little more energy. And then you have those people who are down right needy (and everyone else in between).
I would also like to point out that I do not believe any real relationship to be completely effortless. Relationship requires give and take, some relationships SEEM like there is less energy involved for the whole process.
